Eric and I started talking about this the other day and I decided I should write about it. I know a lot of you are thinking, “Great, Steve is going to rip on fat girls” but that is not the case. Would I date a woman that is extremely overweight? No, but I will get to my reasons. The big question is why most men would rather date a skinny ugly chick than a fat chick with a pretty face and sparkling personality.
First let’s distinguish between the “thick” women that are not included in this conversation and the “linebackers” who we are talking about. Don’t start busting out your softball jerseys as proof you are thick and big boned. I’m probably not talking about you. You are the one with the hips and the chest that the “really” skinny girls do not have. Be proud of that, even while you are eating that gallon of ice cream and watching The Bachelor. At least you can bear children easier than most… good job for being “healthy” or as men call you behind your back, “husky.” No, the women I speak of are usually 200 pounds and above. Maybe 175 if you’re really short. I would even say that maybe you have a tumor and so weight isn’t a fair measurement; in that case a BMI of over 30 makes you our test bunny. Let’s think about this and go over the reasons (both general and mine).
I think it’s the fault of the media. They keep telling/showing us that skinny is beautiful. There are the exceptions like Queen Latifah but she is gay so that doesn’t count. Corporations say that we should buy their products in order to look like the people who they say embodies perfection. We are sheep, just look at all the diets women embrace to get skinny themselves. I won’t even get into the sex industry and what it does to both men and women psyches.
Side note: Back in the day and in many cultures today, men like chubbier girls because it symbolizes that they are wealthy enough to eat. Look at statues from classic Greece, the women weren’t sculpted “toned and thin,” they were curvy and beautiful. I do appreciate curvy and beautiful but where is the stopping point? Obesity is not healthy right?
Men are insecure assholes. A man (not all) would rather be seen with a thin woman, even if she is ugly, than with a fat pretty girl (this is not my reason at all). I know men that are worried that people might gossip, “Oh, perhaps he’s a loser or has something wrong with him because he can only get fat girls.” Yeah men actually worry about that shit. They also worry about what their friends will think. I admitted to this in the “my life” chapters but it had to do with sexual conquests.
Are these ways of thinking really wrong? Why can’t a man want what he wants and not be criticized for throwing fatties out of his dating loop? The reason why I ask this is because women do the same shit. How you ask? Let me answer you by asking a similar question, why do girls prefer tall men even if they’re ugly, instead of a short guy who has an attractive face ? I know women that will NEVER date a man that is shorter. You are 5’2″ and your man is 4’11″… how does that work out for you? Women think tall is sexier hence “tall, dark and handsome.”
Another reason a lot of men do not date bigger women; they want a partner that is physically outgoing (athletic). Don’t get all excited if you are fat and start resenting that thought. Put down the 3 cakes and keep reading. It’s not that bigger women do not ski or rock climb but the image and stereotype, is that they do not. Let’s face it, a lot of people (not just men) associate fat with being lazy. Which if they are talking about me, they nailed it.
Side note #2: Not all men think this way. Some men only date big women (and not just Mexicans). Most men want to date the thin ones (or have a one night stand) but will marry the chubby one. So there is hope. If not, big women will always have each other and their weight watcher’s club. On to me…
This is very easy to explain. The reason I do not date fat women is because I am fat. Let’s be honest, think about 2 fat people fucking. Close your eyes and picture two odd shaped pear bodies on top of each other and imagine the sound of slapping fat bruising one another. This is not okay. I weigh in at anywhere from 260 to 295 (depends on if I am single or not) and must have a woman under 150. The reasoning; old buildings have elevator limits of 450 pounds. I refuse to make my woman take the stairs. I’m a romantic at heart.
Now why are women okay with dating fat men? I mean I have dated some of the skinniest and most attractive women and they never questioned my weight. Well, this chick Ericka told me after we broke up that she learned her lesson with me. That lesson was to never date a fat guy with a little dick again, but the rest never complained once. I think I am tall and proportioned well so I am not the best example but a lot of bigger guys have smokin hot wives. I might need one of you women to explain this.
Why do you think women are okay with dating “fat” but men are not? I didn’t cover every detail but food for thought, right? (get it… food)
If you know the answer or you are chubby, let me know by commenting below. You can even use a fake email and fake name. I just want to hear from you.
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